Wednesday, February 19, 2014

An Open Letter to my Friends who are Married and/or Have Children

Dear Friends,

                Let me just bring some attention to the white elephant that apparently is in the room.  I am single.  I also do not have any kids.  There, I said it out loud!  It’s out there, there is no avoiding it.  So let’s talk about this a little.
                 I’m still your friend.

                Yes, I may not have the same schedule as you do.  I don’t have to factor in a spouse and children every time I make plans, but I am ok with the fact that you do!  I understand that it takes more time to get out the door when you have to make sure everyone has gone potty.  I get that if I’m making plans with you I am also probably making plans with your husband.  I.  Don’t.  Mind.
                What I don’t understand is why I am constantly hearing about all these funs things you’ve done that I haven’t been invited to.  That’s right, I hear about when you all make plans and get together.  And you need to know that it hurts my feelings.  I’m still your friend.  Just because I don’t have a husband or children doesn’t mean I don’t want to be included in the fun with the people who do.  In fact, it means that I really would like to be included!  Sometimes I even need to be included, that’s just the honest truth.  Not all the time, but sometimes.

                I don’t always know when it’s a good time to stop over,  give you a call or invite you for coffee because I understand that you have children with a specific schedule or that it’s hard to find quality time with your spouse.  If it’s not a good time please just be honest with me about that, but also please tell me when a good time is!  I really am willing to work with the circumstances of your life.
               Once again, please, please, please!  When you get together with other families (who are also my friends) invite me as well!  Nothing hurts worse than reading a facebook status about an awesome day you’ve had with all the people I love.

I’m still your friend, singleness and childlessness doesn’t need to change that.
Love,
Joni

 

Thursday, February 6, 2014

What I've Been Reading...

I love to read; I have always loved to read!  My mum taught me from a very young age to read and I just never got out of the habit.  I do tend to have too many books on the go at once though.  Here's what has been on my night stand these days...


The Duck Commander Family
Willie and Korie Robertson with Mark Schlabach

 I got drawn into the Duck Dynasty craze for the same reason as most people: those are some crazy rednecks!  I love me some crazy rednecks!  (Probably because my family fits that description) what isn’t to love really?  Crazy antics, southern charm, bullets and muskets.  However, I’ve stuck with the Robertson crew because I’ve grown to appreciate what they stand for and how much influence they have.  I know people have strong opinions about the Robertsons and their faith, just the other day I got reamed out on facebook for saying Duck Dynasty was a good thing, but really what is there in this world that people don’t have a strong opinion on?  However, I just think that they are some real, down to earth people who understand the point of grace.  I read both Phil and Si’s book recently as well and I thoroughly enjoyed hearing their testimonies.  This book has been an interesting one, reading some of the stories Willie has about growing up make me cringe a bit!  But they also make me laugh.  The thing I really love about this book is that every chapter ends with a Robertson recipe!  Including one for Garlic Frog Legs!

 
Discovering Soul Care
Mindy Caliguire


 One of my mentors gave this book a few months ago when I first realized I was walking through ministry burnout.  I have been sloooowly going through it, slowly because it is quite intense and I really need to think about what I’ve read.  Think and journal and apply.  Somewhere along the line I forgot to take care of myself and it turns out learning how to is not an easy thing!  This book has been so helpful though, it asks the hard questions and encourages you to work through it in tangible ways.  One of the quotes I really love so far in this book is, “Ultimately the clearest way to express what God’s character is like is in just one word: love…The kind of God-formed love is not a weak, spineless love, easily swayed to lose it’s identity and unable to say “no” to anything or anyone.  Instead, those who develop this kind of love become purpose-filled and spiritually powerful people who shake the earth and instill in the hearts of others a sense of their own value.”

 
The Dead Don’t Dance
Charles Martin

 This is one of those books I have read multiple times over and never grow tired of it.  Yes, the only reason I bought this gem was because of the value price sticker on it!  This small priced book turned out to be a big game changer in my life!  It’s a fictional story about loss and faith, love and healing, pain and God’s goodness.  There is a point in the story where the main character is lying in a frozen ditch, covered in ice and someone else’s blood and he has had enough!  He starts to yell at God, asking him where He is during all this.  That part of the book shook me to the core the first time I ever read it and it still brings me to tears.  This book hit me at a time in my life when I needed it most and I am forever thankful.  Charles Martin has become one of my favourite authors, I don’t think I’ve ever read a book penned by him that I didn’t like.  They are gut wrenching, they are real, they are about such deep faith, they are totally relatable.


 

To Fly Again
Gracia Burnham with Dean Merrill

 I had the privilege of meeting Gracia this January and talking with her for a few minutes.  She is small in stature and soft spoken but there is an inner peace within her that is so strong you can almost feel it in the air.  In 2001 Gracia and her husband, Martin, were kidnapped by members of a terrorist group in the Philippines.  They were held captive and forced to trudge through the jungle for over a year, with meager supplies and never knowing which day would be their last.  Martin did not make it out of the jungle alive but Gracia has told their story to thousands.  However, it is not a story of anger,  terror and loss.  It is a story of forgiveness, grace and hope.  This is the second book Gracia has written, the first being the actual story of the Burnham’s captivity and experience.  To Fly Again is about Gracia’s journey through loss and into hope.  It’s about rising above the disasters of life and learning to trust God’s goodness.  I am only one chapter into this book and I am excited to continue.